Ever had a 'Big Idea' that you've wanted to share with someone? You come along bouncing, all positive and wanting to share your amazing idea and the person you are talking to responds negatively and says something deeply hurtful like "you won't do that" or "you can't do that" or "that's not going to happen!". It's painful isn't it?!
There is a breed of you out
there who choose to live life walking along a path to self-improvement. You know that you have just one life and you
want to make the very most of it. You
know that sometimes you may fail along the way but you are willing to try. You are always looking to better yourself and
you enjoy the journey along the way.
Then there are the others!
There is another breed who just don't seem to understand, do they? They seem to
lack the imagination and creativity to consider alternative options to their
life. And they are not very happy when
they see others trying to climb higher and be better. They are not happy because they are living in
their comfort zone and they want you too to remain in their comfort zone. If you choose to do something different and
you succeed, then you put everything that they know at risk. They will have no excuse not to try and
better themselves. And they don't want to.
So to try to keep you from
leaving 'the comfort zone' this breed of people insult you by making excuses
and telling you that what you want to do is not possible. They do not realise that they are hurting
you, they are merely trying to defend the existence that they know and are
comfortable with. I won't say the
existence that they love, because most of these people do not love their
lives. They often spend most of their
time complaining about their lives, but complain as they may, they are not
looking for a way out of it. They are afraid of change.
When faced with this type of
scenario you have a choice to make, do you swim or sink, stay or run, fight or
flight? The easy option would be to
conform and fit it. You would join the
countless number of people who do nothing to change the things that
continuously make them unhappy. If you
join them, then you won't be challenged, you'll keep your ‘not very supportive’
friends and you won't have to face any big hurdles, right? Wrong! If you are of
the first breed mentioned, then you do not get a choice. You are different whether you like it or
not. You could choose to let the
negativity of others bring you down and keep you where you are, but you know
that this would make you unhappy and you are not someone who is able to just
settle with being unhappy for the long term.
At some point you would need to do something about it!
So, what is to be done when
faced with a negative that is standing in your way? Turn it into a positive of course! When
people tell you that you cannot do something, you use that very reason to prove
to them that you can. Think of it as an
argument and it is necessary for you to take action to prove your point. Let their disbelief in you, be your belief in
yourself. A time will come down the line
when you realise that these people's opinions aren't really that important, but
if you let their negativity feed you with determination then you will be
grateful that they were so discouraging because without realising, they will
have helped you to succeed.
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